Empathy

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Dream or dreams

“You were no longer part of my dream but why do you still keep appearing in my dreams?”

– toffeeluckz

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Judgemental?!?

“Judge me not, for I am not you…”

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Empathy

Simply defined as putting ourselves in the shoes of others. Often mistakenly linked to or referred as sympathy, however, they totally differ.

Empathy can be considered as one of the underlying principle of the ‘Platinum Rule’ which means treating others as they want to be treated.

Sometimes we are caught unguarded by people’s reaction to what we have just said or done. We wonder what have gone wrong, what have we said that might have offended the other person, what actions or expressions have we projected for this person to explode in anger and disgust? Or is it just our face that cause the disruption? No matter how rigorous we put our mind into thinking the real reason behind, we will definitely fail to decipher it unless we learn to empathize.

This leaves us always into two choices. One is to blindly continue justifying our actions and keep convincing ourselves that we have done no wrong. Or apply empathy and discover what we missed. Only then that we will fully understand why. Susan Sarandon says, “when you start to develop your powers of empathy and imagination, the whole world opens up to you.”

 

 

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Power of Prayer & Act of Faith…

Two days before the arrival of the Super Typhoon Yolanda (Haiyan) which is considered to be the most powerful of all Super Typhoons this 2013 and officially the fourth strongest tropical cyclone ever recorded in world history, there are already several and repeated warnings issued through television and radio programs about the possible devastation it will bring to the Philippines particularly those in the Visayas region.

Government officials and the Filipino people themselves helped each other in the preparation for the landfall of typhoon Yolanda. In every crisis like this, the ‘Bayanihan’ culture of Filipinos is evident and very powerful. Moreover, what really amazing about Filipino people is their deep and strong faith to God that even during dreadful and horrifying catastrophe, you can sense in their faces their inner stillness, hearts full of hope, genuine care and love for each other. Through their smile, one can say that they can face the most terrifying disasters that this world can give them because they believe and trust that the Lord God will always be there to comfort, protect and help them stand up again to face the world with pride and dignity.

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If I may quote the statement of CNN about Filipino people;

“Time to get to know the Filipino people… unbelievable resilient, long suffering, good natured, uber friendly, loyal, ingenius, and a bunch of survivors.

At the end of the day, the Filipinos will just shake off the dirt from their clothes and go about their business… and SMILE. They do not complain much, they will bear as long as they can.

Maybe this is why they were given the “privilege” of bearing the burden of the strongest typhoon ever recorded.

The indomitable human spirit at its finest.”

Another admirable trait of Filipinos is their high regard and value of “family”. Their houses were dragged and torn down by heavy storm surges and strong winds, many properties and sources of livelihoods were destroyed. However, their focus and main priority is to bring their loved ones to safety and be with each other no matter what happens. They understand that eternal riches are much more important than temporary and mundane wealth.

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Prayer and act of faith produces an inner power and strength that can become a permanent weapon against all odds. Faith that God loves us so much and He never and will never intend to harm His creations as the Scripture says;

“‘For I knows the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'”         – Jeremiah 29:11

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“Disappointment…

“Disappointments are necessary part of growing up. We have to go through them, feel them, and experience them. But we need not dwell on them. Eventually, we have to let go and move on. For if not, we will be blinded of the many other blessings that we already have.”
– kristoffer o. lacuanan

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Hidden Treasure in Dreams

Last night, I had this horrifying yet mind opening dream. When I wake up this morning my emotions are mixed, part of me was scared and lonely, another part of me felt relieved that it was just a dream, part of me felt confused and funny in a way. I was speechless and startled for a moment as rolls of sweat racing down through my face. I looked for my wife who was still peacefully asleep, I can’t keep but to admire her simple beauty and before I realized my arms are already hugging her. I kissed her and in a modulate voice I whispered the words ‘I love you’ in her right ear as I always do but this time it felt different. I WAS DEAD! Yes, I died in my dream last night.

Well, the details were blurry and out of context as most of our dreams were. It’s just that I was dead and I was inside our ancestral house in the province where memories of my childhood were piling up. On the onset of my dream, I wasn’t able to notice yet the fact that I’m already dead (let’s skip the part of how I died) but as I go along, as I realized that I’m supposedly dead, I panicked, manifested symptoms of denial and wasn’t able to accept the fate bestowed in me. I struggled and even quarreled with God; even remembering this phrase that I uttered unto Him…

“Please God give me one more chance, one more opportunity… let me live… One more chance… please… please… please…”

Ever wondering why I said those words? The answer to this question came on me when I woke up and found myself in a very reflective mood… There is only one reason that I can put into it… I AM NOT YET READY TO DIE.

You see, as we all know, in our generation today, everyone, literally everyone is so busy doing things that are of this world. Majority of our time are spent on working; making more money, owning more than one fancy cars, having a house big enough to shelter relatives up to third degree. Sometimes, because of too much activities we feel that the time is already not enough to accomplish all the mundane concerns and activities that we are doing. Well, the question is, where will all these lead us, lead our lives? Have we ever make room for a more spiritual things and activities?

In my dream last night, when I realized that I am already dead, I felt lot of regrets and frustrations oozing out from within me for not giving more time in doing the things that matter most rather than spending so much time on things that are less important. This happens to almost everyone of us and we don’t realize it until it is too late. Why this happens all the time? Maybe, because all of us know that we are going to die but no one believes it. Because if we did, we would have done things differently.

Right this moment, how many of us are brave enough to ask ourselves and answer the same question…

‘AM I READY TO DIE?”

According to a book I once read, Buddhists have a weird way of preparing themselves to die? Everyday, they put a little bird (I just don’t know if it’s a real bird or just an imaginary bird) in their shoulder and asked it, ‘Is today the day? Am I ready for death? Am I doing all I need to do? Have I become the person God designed me to be? Have I love enough?

The truth is, once we learn how will our life ends, we will learn how to live our life!

Am I ready to die? ARE YOU READY TO DIE? If today is the day, how would you feel? What would you do? Who would you spend your last hours of your life???

“For you, O Lord, have delivered my soul from death,

my eyes from tears, my feet from stumbling,

that I may walk before the Lord in the land of the living.”      (Psalm 116:8-9)

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